FAAPA's monthly training meetings will resume September 15th at Garden Way Church 6:30-8pm.
New to fostering? Looking to connect with other foster and adoptive families? Are you a relative who is fostering a family member? Then this support group is for you!
Tiffany Olsen's support group meets at Papa's Pizza in Springfield the second Tuesday of each month at 5:30pm! Lots of space for kids to play together while parents visit and support each other. Drop in anytime! Everyone is welcome! Questions? Contact Tiffany Olsen at (541) 515-9951
Our May FAAPA meeting will take place on Monday May 19th at Garden Way Church from 6:30-8pm. Doors open at 6pm and free child care is provided. Our training topic will be on Differential Response(DR) that rolled out here in Lane County as of May 1st. DHS representatives will educate us on this new approach and what it will mean to Lane County's foster care system. Child Welfare Program Director Lois Ann Day describes Differential Response as a system change that “redesigns the front door to Child Welfare.” To read about Differential Response ahead of time you can go to: http://www.oregon.gov/dhs/children/beyondfc/differential-response/Pages/default.aspx
“It’s too expensive.”
“Children in foster care are too set in their ways to blend in with my family.”
“I’m not married, so I can’t adopt, right?”
“I don’t want to deal with the birth parents in my face about their child or deal with the child welfare system – it’s all just too complicated!”
We hear these and similar comments all the time. It’s good to consider all of the challenges and needs potential parents could face when creating or expanding a family through adoption – from financial implications to household dynamics. But opting out of the process based on myths or misperceptions about the children or the systems involved is simply a disservice to the 104,000 children waiting to be adopted.
So let’s address some of the myths:
1. It is too expensive to adopt. In reality, adoption from foster care is not expensive, typically averaging $0 to $1,500, ($0 in the state of Oregon) and financial support is available to families who adopt from foster care. Subsidies follow most of the children in foster care until they are 18 years old, and many employers provide adoption benefits. Federal and state tax credits are available, and assistance for college expenses of older youth is increasingly available.
2. Children in foster care are juvenile delinquents. Nothing could be further from the truth. Children enter the foster care system through no fault of their own, usually as a result of abuse, neglect and/or abandonment. More than half of the children waiting in foster care for adoptive homes are 8 or older, 30 percent are 12 or older. Unfortunately, each year, nearly 30,000 of the children waiting to be adopted turn 18 and leave the system without families. These are the children who may fall back in to another state system without the support needed to grow and thrive. These children deserve our best efforts to find them the families we promised when they were permanently separated from their families of birth.
3. The biological parents can try to have the children returned. Once a child has been made legally free for adoption, birth parents cannot claim a child or petition for their return. Foster care adoption is permanent. The adoptive parents may decide to maintain contact with the child’s extended biological family based on what is best for the child, but that is a choice of the adoptive family.
4. Single individuals cannot adopt. Unmarried individuals are legally able to adopt in all 50 states. Nearly 30 percent of the children adopted from foster care last year were adopted by single parents.
5. Dealing with the child welfare system is too burdensome. Any system, from the Bureau of Motor Vehicles to health care providers, can be frustrating and complex. And yes, sometimes working with the state or county child welfare system can seem as though it is fraught with rules, processes and sometimes unresponsiveness. It is a complex system, but the professionals involved are as committed as you are to finding homes for children and want to walk you through the process every step of the way. You can also call us at 800-ASK-DTFA when you need help, or order our Finding Forever Families: A Step-by-Step Guide to Adoption free of charge.
Remember Dave Thomas’ wise words: “These children are not someone else’s responsibility; they are our responsibility.” When children in foster care are permanently removed from their families of birth, we make what should be an unbreakable promise to them: we will find a family. And we will do it in a way that cherishes their childhood and their developmental needs so that they can grow and thrive within the birthright of every child – a safe and secure family of his or her own.
Take a moment to remember a time when, as a child, you were alone, or afraid, or distraught because one of your favorite comfort items – a stuffed animal, a blanket, a toy – was missing.Children in foster care waiting to be adopted feel that loss in a much more profound way. Each and every day.
***This article has been shared from the Dave Thomas Foundation For Adopyion and can be found Here.
As a Non Profit FAAPA needs your support more than ever! Like the support FAAPA offers your family? If so, log in to FAAPA's Go Fund Me Page today and show them. Feeling extra helpful? Share and post this link on your private facebook pages and recruit a handful of your own friends and family to contribute too. Remember, it takes a village!
Did you know we have a private facebook page for current Lane County foster or adoptive parents? If you haven't yet joined our page you can do so by clicking the green circle with the letter 'f' at the top of this page or go to:
(Please check your 'other' message box on facebook for a message from us asking if you are a current foster or adoptive provider. We will need to know that information before you can be added to our closed group.)
If you are a DHS employee or a community member interested in learning more about FAAPA, or just want to show your community support you can follow our public facebook page at:
Below you will find a list containing the 45 randomly drawn provider numbers that have been selected to receive a gift card from Lane County DHS for Foster Parent appreciation month. You should have received a letter in the mail this week stating your provider number. If your provider number was one that was chosen please contact Ashley Herbert directly at (541)726-6644 ex 2238). (You do not need to call your specific certifier just Ashley Herbert.) Be advised she does not work on Mondays. Leave her a message and she will return calls in the order she receives them. Winners will be given a choice from the remaining gift cards in the order that they contact Ashley.
Gift cards being given are from Papa's Pizza ($20 value), Applebees ($20 value), Ben Franklin Craft Store ($20 value), 6 wash cards from Coburg Carwash ($38 value), Rhythm and Blooms ($25 value), Sweet Life ($35 value), Portland Children's Museum Passes ($40 value) and a Buffalo Wild Wings ($25 value). Ashley will work her way down the list of people who won but did not call her. If you did not receive a letter and need to know your provider number you can contact your certifier for that information.
Here are the winning Provider Numbers:
Did you miss our training on the new Differential Response approach that DHS is implementing here in Lane County? You can read more about it in the following brochure or on the State of Oregon's website that is linked below.